BREAKING SILENT CODES
across Australian and the Pacific against sexual abuse & domestic violence for First Nation women.
across Australian and the Pacific against sexual abuse & domestic violence for First Nation women.
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‘The blanket of colonisation has been woven on violence and oppression has denied us all of a kind truth. The impact of broken culture and languages and spiritual practices has left a deafening silence around violence in our intimate relationships causing violent assaults and sexual abuse.
Kindness is a movement. Sharing it is accessing your basic human right to personal and communal safely. We need to own our stories and come together to appreciate each other and listen. Violence hurts, it hurts society, it hurts families and it hurts you and I.
My Grandmothers were stolen from their families and enslaved, their culture and language denied. As a young person who witnessed family violence, I would never have believed I would be here today.
Understand that someone may not be ready to leave, and be kind and understand, don’t carry judgment or resentment of someone else’s journey. Give them a place to speak openly without being afraid or judged.
I said to my good friend, ‘I can’t live in this oppressive state of mind and not do nothing about the violence we are experiencing, personally and in society’. So begins the change when knowledge is learned and processed. Holding onto anger and resentment isn’t worth it.
No one person can be what you need to be or feel what you need to feel. Find safety within yourself.’
-Dixie Link Gordon
Senior Community Access, Women’s Legal Service NSW
Adjunct Senior Lecturer UNSW.
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“Generally the Pacific child/children are seen but not often heard.
So often children become the forgotten victims in domestic violence dialogue as ethical safeguards stop them from being included in the public narrative. It’s time we better understood their trauma grief by giving them their own voice.
Children exposed to domestic and family violence over a sustained period of time may experience trauma symptoms, including post- traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), resulting in psychosocial and sometimes physical responses that, if left untreated, can have long- lasting effects on children’s development, behaviour and wellbeing (Jaffe, Wolfe, & Campbell, 2012).
We as adults should provide the avenues for the child’s voice to be heard. If you’re a service provider, a community member, a priest, a big brother or sister etc. this is a message for you.
Let’s not use the system, customs and traditions as an excuse
to further alienate our children. Provide them a conduit for their voices to be heard in dometic violence context and other avenues in our communities. It is their birth right to be heard, nurtured and supported.
As a Pacific women, Tongan to be specific, it is my role to nurture and suppport my children and part of that is to provide them a voice for their own narratives.
‘Ofa atu”
Seini Afeaki
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“My name is Alearah, I’m now 17 years old
I am a proud Gooreng Gooreng and Dharumbal woman. I am a survivor. I come from a strong line of women who contributed in many different ways that has shaped me into who I am today. Speaking up, being safe and being strong was instilled in me from a very young age. Sometimes being strong is hard, but I refuse to be a victim to that. Breaking Silent Codes has been apart of my journey and I get strength from this special group of women in my life and all the other women that surround me with love and support. I was frightened to speak up and tell my story because of the judgements and bullying I knew I was going to face, but that did not silence me. I knew within myself that I had no choice but to speak up and tell my story. Tell my story so I could show younger generations who are to come know it’s okay to share there story. All that mattered to me was was breaking the silence within my family showing the people before me and the ones after that you are not alone and it’s okay to speak up. I would also like to thank my mum for believing me because after that I knew I was going to be okay. Thank you ma “
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